I live with my parents and I absolutely hate it here. I have a job but they cut my hours, so now I am looking for another one. I have to move or I am going to have an aneurysm. I have already started looking at places just to get an idea of how much I need to save up to leave. Though I am only nineteen, I feel like I have been here much too long and I am ready to be on my own.
I guess it all started when I came home from college. By then I was already used to being on my own and doing what I want. So to be back here again is like taking five steps back. I can not even imagine how I dealt with living here before. And I know many people may have it much worse than me-- I am very thankful and grateful of my parents and the things I have. It just pains me to stay here. I am the only child so I am used to being on my own. I would rather get a place to myself but I know that it would be wiser to split the rent with a roomie. But being here just really makes me want to be alone.
My parents act as if they do not want me to go even though they say they understand my strong desire to be on my own. They keep making comments about how "hard" it is out there and how they do not want to see me struggling. I know it won't be easy, but it is also not so hard and complicated either. The longer I stay, the more I hate my life. I hate it here and just gotta go--.
How am I supposed to cope??
Nicole Farhi
If your parents don't mind you being there then that's a great thing. You have to get out there on your own. You don't have to have a fabulous apartment but a nice safe one for now. Try it on your own and then if it doesn't work out, then go back home until you come up with another plan in life, when it comes to achieving many goals on your own.
Oh, and do make sure that you have extra emergency funds availible just in case something goes wrong finacial wise. Have at least two months of bill money saved up that you NEVER touch or tell anyone about. Use your money wisely so that money won't become a serious stress on you. Sometimes being alone at home, knowing that no one will enter your room or irritate you, can be a relaxing thing after a hard days work.
1I think the best thing for you is to have a goal and make a plan. Figure out a budget, be looking for where you want to live and the prices of places. It will pass the time if you know that you're working toward something you want. I'm in a similar situation right now and that's helping me.
2Pick up the paper. Look at ads for apartments. Go look at one. See what the deposits are. Do something. Come home and see if your budget will allow it. Show your parents. Tell them how much you love them and appreciate their help, but you need some independence. Ask them if they'll give you the deposit. Find a roommate. Show them your budget for half the rent split with a friend. Have some real research and thought into the process. Will they chip in $100 a month for a year until you have more money?
3You'll have to start somewhere.
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