OK so that title makes it sound like something crazy; it's not.

here's what it is... I work in a touring acting troupe. this means that we are with each other ALL of the time. It's just the twelve of us doing all the loading in and out, performing, costume maintenance, etc. I am lucky enough to be on the road with my fiancee so I never have to share a room with anyone but him. However there is this one girl who drives me up the wall. She can be EXTREMELY passive aggressive, and has no concept of respect for other people or their property. She definitely comes from money so nothing has value to her. all of these terrible traits aside she is dating another member of the troupe. He can be kind of an *sshole so I think they are quite perfect for each other.

A few weeks ago we had a sort of bust up and had a talk about it. I explained to her that we are very different personalities (i.e. she wants everyone to be her friend, I am very picky about who I let into my personal life and so on and so on) and that we weren't necessarily going to get along by default. she brought up the fact that she finds it irritating that our other co-workers think that a relationship is all she needs (many people dislike her for a myriad of reason) she says that it's not but she'll take what she can get. At the time i commiserated because I'm the only other girl on the tour in a relationship with someone close enough to touch. but then I began to think about it more deeply.

from week one of she and her boyfriend getting together on the tour they have been very public with their affection. they are very touchy in the car (where we all have to sit together for long drives from one venue to the next) and kiss a lot in front of everyone else. they hold hands and do those honeymooner type things. Now, I am very anti-PDA. I will not really let my boyfriend kiss on me in public. I think that is something for your private time, not something you have to display to the world. It's for me anyway, so why would I want the world to get a free show? So i thought about this conversation that we had had, and figured out that SHE was the one who set the standard. SHE was the one who let everyone else know how she would like to be treated: as part of a couple. Neither she nor her boyf make any effort to keep it to themselves, even at work (during shows, backstage) and that just not right. We are in a situation where we cannot get away from anyone and there are people who are very sad about their own relationship status. there is one guy who is away from his wife. Overall I just find it rude to shove that in everyone's faces. Also, being part of the only other couple on the road, I have gone to good lengths to keep my private business exactly that, and I find it thoughtless of the other couple to flaunt their status.

So, here's my dilemma. Since she and I had a conversation about it a few weeks ago, should I go to her and tell her of my later discovery (with all kindness and tact) or should I just keep it to myself?

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